Jewish centric post, singlehood and shul politics
It's Sunday, as I promised last week, I would have a Jewish-centric post. No mention of men being paid millions of dollars to play a boy's game.
1) I wonder why single women in the unmarried Orthodox world are reluctant to talk to men, just for the sake of practicing social skills. If one is in the Yeshivish world, I understand, however, for those on the Yeshivish-Modern bent or Modox Machmir bent, it makes no sense to pretend that you're a sixteen year old in Bais Yaakov. What good does it do you or the men you're trying to marry?
2) A shul/Beis Medrash that I attend frequently is leasing space from another shul. There has been talk of a possible merger, but there are complications. The Beis Medrash has purchased a building that's closer to Touhy , where it would be more convenient for some of its members. I heard that they are having trouble with zoning because if they can build a shul, then a whole bunch of mosques will go up. This is a problem that has to be solved quickly. As evidenced by the last Alderman election, this is too heterogeneous a neighborhood to take for granted. Personally I would be freaked out seeing mosques, it would be the equivalent of living in Montana or Idaho (states near where I grew up) and knowing that there were White Supremacists groups nearby.
Maybe we should consider going elsewhere so that the Muslims don't bother us. Skokie is an option but I think some of the Muslims might follow us there. One can hope that they aren't the types who want to convert the world into Sharia, but I would be leery of that.
ld be leery of that.
1) I wonder why single women in the unmarried Orthodox world are reluctant to talk to men, just for the sake of practicing social skills. If one is in the Yeshivish world, I understand, however, for those on the Yeshivish-Modern bent or Modox Machmir bent, it makes no sense to pretend that you're a sixteen year old in Bais Yaakov. What good does it do you or the men you're trying to marry?
2) A shul/Beis Medrash that I attend frequently is leasing space from another shul. There has been talk of a possible merger, but there are complications. The Beis Medrash has purchased a building that's closer to Touhy , where it would be more convenient for some of its members. I heard that they are having trouble with zoning because if they can build a shul, then a whole bunch of mosques will go up. This is a problem that has to be solved quickly. As evidenced by the last Alderman election, this is too heterogeneous a neighborhood to take for granted. Personally I would be freaked out seeing mosques, it would be the equivalent of living in Montana or Idaho (states near where I grew up) and knowing that there were White Supremacists groups nearby.
Maybe we should consider going elsewhere so that the Muslims don't bother us. Skokie is an option but I think some of the Muslims might follow us there. One can hope that they aren't the types who want to convert the world into Sharia, but I would be leery of that.
ld be leery of that.
2 Comments:
As far as single women not talking to men - you can't go for years being taught that it isn't tznius to talk to boys, and then suddenly adapt when now told - it's for shidduch purposes - it's ok to talk to boys now! Making conversation is an acquired skill. Approaching someone takes courage. I guess it's as hard for girls as it is for guys to begin a conversation.
As far as the zoning opening a can of words - it is an issue. However, think of all the Jews that daven each day at the Kotel with a mosque on the Har Habayit! In Israel, there are mosques and churches everywhere - it doesn't stop it from being the Jewish holy land.
We will survive even if mosques open right next to our shuls - it is pretty pointless to alter our own plans to open shuls in fear that other groups will be able to open religious insitutions too. I say, go where you want to regardless of loosening zoning regulations. They are going to worm their way in regardless - now or later. We just have to learn to live alongside each other in peace.
Dear Frumhouse,
Are there families in WRP (West Rogers Park) that would have both unmarried women and men at the same shabbos table? I can't seem to find one. Perhaps I need to look harder.
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