One thing that I have noticed is that Modern Orthodoxy has moved to the right. I feel that some of this is a reaction to contemporary society. Just because a lot of kids do drugs, have sex before marriage, etc. doesn't mean that we have to lock up our kids away 100% from society. This is not to say that safeguards shouldn't be in place. But I wouldn't want to go to a school like MTA or Skokie Yeshiva today because I feel they would royally mess me up.
If women who claim they're modern Orthodox have trouble talking to men who aren't married, then they aren't fit to be part of American society. There's a place for you, it's Israel, preferably Har Nof or Bnei Brak.